In this article I want to talk about the high rate of male suicide in the West. I’ve already made a video called “Why men are killing themselves”, in that video I talk about structural societal biases against men such as divorce courts, unfair child custody settlements and life destroying false rape claims, which lead many men to take their lives. But in this article I’m going to focus on another major contributing factor to the high suicide rate, which is the feminisation of mental healthcare. Yes, I have spelled feminisation with a Z and not an S because I know if I do it just confuses my predominantly North American audience.
Though I’m not a men’s rights activist, because I’m simply not active in the movement, I do sympathise with it and one of the major challenges facing men that MRAs have brought to our attention is the high male suicide rate. According to the CDC 80% of suicides are male.
Of course feminists tell us that feminism is all about equality while never taking men’s issues seriously. Often baulking at the very term ‘men’s issues’, and stating that the disproportionately high male suicide rate is an example of how patriarchy hurts men too. They claim it’s because in today’s society men are encouraged to be tough and macho and never show their feelings. They effectively victim blame by saying men should ‘man up’, by ironically behaving more feminine and displaying more emotionally sensitive qualities. Another kick in the nuts to masculinity.
The truth is, men don’t want to resolve their problems in the way women do. They have their own way of going about overcoming their challenges, but sadly our society is not encouraging male-centric solutions to men’s problems.
In truth, feminism doesn’t have the answer to the high male suicide rate because feminism is in fact the cause of it. This is because, like any form of marxist social justice movement that infiltrates anything from Atheism to Humanism now, Feminism has also assimilated mental healthcare.
In much the same way that primary and secondary level education now champions girl’s as the academic gold standard and treats boys as defective girls, psychology and psychotherapy have adopted a method of operating that is biased towards the female mind. As a consequence, men are failing to receive a form of mental healthcare that is tailored to meet their specific needs.
In Stephen A. Diamond’s article on Psychology Today, titled End of Men: The Feminsation of Psychotherapy, he discusses how psychiatric practices have changed over the last few decades and the operational model favours a more emotional, feminine approach. This in turn has attracted more female practitioners to the industry so that male therapists have become a minority. Sounds like the same story in education.
He talks about the highly rational treatment of Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) as being a good example of a therapy that favours masculine traits of reason, logic and critical thinking over emotion. He compares this to how the industry has now adopted a more “lopsidedly “feminine,” nurturing, soft, passive, supportive approach to treatment in which firm limits, boundaries, diagnosis, structure and confrontation are sorely lacking. Balance between “masculine” and “feminine,” between a focus on both feeling and thinking, intellect and experience, rational and irrational, is essential in psychotherapy, whatever the clinician’s gender.”
He goes on to consider “Can a female therapist relate adequately to that which is archetypally and instinctually masculine? To the innate, primitive, often intimidating aggression, anger or rage of men? To the unique nature and primal power of male sexuality? Much of that depends, in my estimation, on how conscious and related she is to what Jung called her animus or inner masculinity. And on her own personal experiences with men. For male psychotherapists treating female patients, the same may be said regarding the awareness of and attitude toward their anima or inner femininity.”
It’s totally understandable that a woman would seek the services of a female therapist to discuss her issues, because she may feel uncomfortable doing so with a male one. Men are no different except there’s a lot less male therapists for them to consult and so they’re forced to conform to a one-size fits all, feminine solution.
Diamond goes on to state that due to profound psychobiological differences in men and women, men will seek male mentors and role models just as women will seek female mentors and role models. However there are plenty of instances in which women can benefit from the treatment of a male therapist and vice versa. The problem is that the industry is now so polarised in one direction, a balance has become almost impossible to achieve.
As this excerpt from the psychologist explains “It seems, however, that gender-specific has become synonymous with addressing women’s issues, largely because historically it has been women who were disenfranchised. This policy has proved powerful in ensuring services are reorganised to meet the needs of women, but there has been no parallel strategy for men…The way that men and women articulate and express mental and emotional distress is different; in particular, men are more likely to externalise their feelings. Whereas women are more likely to present with anxiety or depression, data shows that men are more likely to turn to substance abuse, aggressive behaviour, violence and suicide (Wilkins, 2010).
Though feminists want us to believe that we’re all born blank slates and male and female identities are simply learned behaviours, we know this is bullshit. Women tend to work through their issues emotionally, while men seek to tackle their problems like challenges to be analysed, figured out and overcome.
For societies to remain strong and stable, they need adequate depictions and representations of strong and stable role models for the genders to aspire to. The feminisation of healthcare and education are microcosms of our hyper-gyncentric Western world in general. The more masculinity is downplayed, or worse, demonised in politics, the workplace, the media or academia, the more it perpetuates a vicious cycle of male absence.
Just look at the statistics of men raised by fatherless homes, without a strong male role model you get such shocking situations as 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes, 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes, 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes, 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes.
If men suffering from mental health issues are put off by the feminised approach to psychiatric care, is it any wonder the suicide rate is as high as it is?